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I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for one and a half months. Things were great for the first two weeks, but suddenly he’s changed. He has become very distant and doesn’t call much anymore or tell me he’s thinking about me like he once did.

I’ve asked him if I did something to cause this and if he still wants to be with me. He says that he still wants to be with me, but he needs space. I’ve asked him if there’s something he’s going through, and he said yes, but he can’t discuss it with me and it has nothing to do with any females.

I don’t know what to do at this point. We don’t speak very often, and I’m trying to give him space by not calling or texting him too much. I don’t know if this is a relationship that has the possibility of going anywhere. I don’t know if I should be patient and wait. —Jasmine

Why is someone your boyfriend after only one and a half months? Do you really know enough about him to know you even want him to be your boyfriend? Or are you just doing what everyone else does without asking yourself if it feels right for you?

I suspect he wasn’t that into you in the first place, and by agreeing to become exclusive so soon, the thrill of the chase was gone and he lost interest.

Asking a guy you barely know what’s wrong will rarely get you the truth. He doesn’t want any drama so he tells you everything is OK. His actions, however, tell me it’s not OK.

Stop chasing him! Stop texting, stop calling, stop thinking about him. Go out with other guys. When he contacts you (and he will), don’t talk about the relationship or ask to see him. If he wants you back, he’s going to have to work for you.



If a guy tells me he loves me after three months, is that too soon?  —Dajana

Don’t look at his words, look at his actions. “I love you” means nothing if it’s not followed through with loving behavior.



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