Sometimes, you just need a good cuddle session -- nothing more, nothing less.
And Cuddlr understands that.
The app, which is available in the App Store, describes itself as a "location-based social-meeting app for cuddling." Pretty self-explanatory.
Here's how it works: Browse through photos of people signed up on the app. When you see someone who looks like he or she would be an excellent little spoon or big spoon (or if they have high cuddle "ratings"), tap on their photo and send him or her a cuddle request. If they accept your request, you'll be able to follow real-life walking directions to that person's location. Once you meet up with them, you can cuddle in person...or in private.
Now, after watching Cuddlr's promotional video, a "cuddle" could be an actual sleeping-in-bed kind of cuddle, or it can be just a hug.
But let's make one thing clear: the dating app is about touch, not sex.
On Medium.com, Cuddlr founder and developer Charlie Williams explained his new app is really about the power of touch.
"[W]e are born needing, even craving touch," he wrote. He later continued, "Aside from finding like-minded cuddlers, [Cuddlr is] also a way of contributing to a larger discussion about closeness, intimacy, and sexuality."
It seems Williams hopes to break the cultural taboos and societal rules we place around cuddling. For example, two straight men embracing or cuddling might confuse someone into thinking the two are gay. Some people ONLY hug when another person needs comfort or if that person is sad. And, there are those who believe cuddling is reserved for intimate and physical intimacy only.
"Why this edginess around touch?" wrote Williams.
"I love the experience of touch, and I think we don’t get enough of it," he continued. "We need to delve deeper, to go beyond rejecting cliché and start actually challenging the ways we interact (or the ways we don’t feel we are allowed to interact)."
At first glance, it may seem that Cuddlr is only suitable for single people, but that's not the case. Williams intends this app to be used by singles and couples. I'm not sure many couples would feel comfortable about their partners cuddling with others (I admit, my jealously would probably make my head and heart explode), but Williams does make an interesting point about how this app can start deep conversations about trust:
When the options for what to do with another person are “sex” and “nothing”, that sharp divide makes it easier for members of a couple to assume all of the rules, rather than explicitly discussing them. That divide is an illusion, and bringing platonic cuddling into the public discussion of commitment and monogamy-and-its-variants will help couples negotiate what they are and aren’t comfortable with (and even start to explore why). People may not be willing to indulge other sex partners, but may see the appeal in the occasional bit of casual cuddling. This, of course, takes trust. But if you can’t trust someone to be honest and self-controlled about cuddling, how can you trust them to be honest and self-controlled about sex, or for that matter parenting, cohabitation, feelings, or desires?
So, if you're looking for a cuddle buddy, more closeness, or you just need a hug, we've found your new go-to app.
But, if you're looking for a little "MORE" (which technically could happen. If you experience a great cuddle, and want to be more physical and even date that person, those are always options) on a first meeting, we suggest you head back over to Tinder or Grindr. These apps tend to guarantee a hookup. Or so we've heard.