Ever since I wrote about red flags last year, I’ve started to see them everywhere. Now I present to you more warning signs to look out for while you’re out dating.

Name Calling

I’m surprised at how many people put up with this. What is one of the main reasons for being in a relationship? Because your life is enhanced as a result of that person being in it. Does being called a "bitch" or a "loser" make your life better?

I can understand someone saying that you’re acting bitchy. But the next time someone says "Bitch!" to you, your only answer should be, "You’re right. I am a bitch. I’m a babe in total control of herself," as you walk out the door forever.

Unwilling to Perform Oral Sex

In all my years of dating, I’ve only run across one guy that didn’t want to do oral. In general, girls may have more of an issue with it than guys, but either way, it’s not a good sign, especially if it’s important to you.

I have a girlfriend whose husband refuses to do it. The poor girl has been relegated to just dreaming about it when she’s asleep. Since oral sex is an acceptable part of sex in the 21st century, if someone is unwilling to partake, they obviously have issues.

Whether you stick around to see if they’re willing to work on those issues depends on you, but just keep in mind that this is always a red flag.

Hanging Up

OK, we’ve all hung up the phone on someone or have had someone hang up on us. However, at a certain point we grow up and realize we can’t just go around hanging up on people when we’re upset or frustrated with them.

The proper way to deal with this situation is to say something like, "I don’t want to talk to you right now. I’m going to hang up. Bye." If you’re past hanging up on people and someone hangs up on you, you may think twice about dating them. There are bound to be other maturity issues involved.

If, however, you’re still hanging up on people and someone hangs up on you, then stay together. Those of us who have grown up don’t need you on the dating scene bothering us.

Soap Operas

This is mainly with respect to guys. Like I’ve said before, soap operas are the television equivalent of Harlequin romances, and just like Secret deodorant, they may be "Strong enough for a man, but they’re made for a woman."

I just don’t think guys have any business watching soap operas (sorry CBS, NBC and ABC) unless they are actually on the show and they want to check their "performance."

Saying "I Love You"

Anyone who is professing their "love" for you within a few weeks or months of meeting you is being insincere and immature. You have to know someone before you can truly love them, yet people are throwing this phrase around left and right. Before they know it, the relationship is over.

It’s better to err on the side of caution and take too long to say this phrase than to rush into it. Of course, I don’t have to tell you that yelling this out for the first time during a "moment of passion" doesn’t count.

REMEMBER: Love inspires, empowers, uplifts and enlightens.

Write to Lucia at: www.theartoflove.net.