I had a roommate who was living off of me because I was acting like a knight in shining armor. She moved out and left her bed, TV and jewelry box here. I have no forwarding address or phone for her. I do have an e-mail address, but she is not responding at all.

Is there anything I can do or say to 1) get her to contact me 2) re-establish a friendship 3) get her to pick up her stuff and/or 4) find a way or third party to intercede so that the whole situation gets better?

I really do care about this woman; it’s her behavior that is not acceptable. —Stirling

As one gets older and hopefully wiser, they usually come to realize that you can’t “make” anyone do anything they don’t want to do, even if it’s for their own good. This woman is obviously very irresponsible.

You’ve already tried to contact her so now just leave her alone. Speak to a lawyer to see what the law is regarding other people’s belongings in your home after they move out. Keep them there as long as you can. If it’s legal, you can always sell the TV and bed and keep the jewelry just in case she suddenly decides she wants it one day.

The next move is up to her. It’s time to move on with your life.



I meet a lot of men, and most of them want a commitment. I am not sure what I want. I don’t always like being alone, but at the same time, I’m not ready for a relationship with a guy who will want to move in. What do I do? —Bella

Wow, where are you meeting all these guys who want a commitment? LOL.

There is a middle ground between your two options, and it’s called dating.

Who said a guy needs to move in if that’s not what you want? Since you meet a lot of men, date several at a time and eventually one will spark your interest enough to help you understand what you do want. It’s your life, and you get to live it how you want to!



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