I met a woman who said she wanted a relationship and kids. She has broken up with me many, many times over stupid stuff and says, “She couldn’t trust me.” I am the most trustworthy guy in the world.

We are currently broken up and she will not reply to my e-mails, phone calls, etc. I am a wreck and still so very much in love with her. Any chance here? —Billy

Any chance for what? More drama and more wasting of time and energy? Absolutely. She has shown you who she is, and yet you continue to either believe that this is how relationships are supposed to be or that things will eventually improve. I don’t care what someone says; I look at what they do.

In the words of Ivern Bell, “Most of us can read the writing on the wall; we just assume it’s addressed to someone else.”



I’m an older woman who has been dating a 21-year-old man for three months. It is an amazing connection. However, I keep holding back because I feel concerned that he is so young, and I wonder: What is the point to this?

He has no immediate plans for a serious relationship, and while I would like one, I am not out there looking either. My relationships are not usually long-lasting!

He says he doesn’t care about the age difference and does not hesitate to have me meet his mother. I have been putting that off. Should I quit this amazing connection while I am ahead? —Lisa

Guys go through three stages – knight, prince and king. A knight is usually in his 20s, still finding out who he is, what he likes and what he wants to be when he grows up.

It is, of course, flattering to have such a young man attracted to you, however the attention span of people in their early 20s is not known for being very long. You should enjoy this while it lasts while also dating others, but the chances of it turning into a long-term relationship are very low.



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