I’m 25 years, and I’ve met a man who wants to marry me. I’m afraid to accept his proposal because he is a womanizer, but I’m also in love with him. —Linda

Just because you’re “in love” or think you are, doesn’t mean that is necessarily the person you should marry.

Do you want to be married to a man who sleeps with you tonight and then sleeps with someone else tomorrow and someone else next week? If yes, then go ahead and marry him. If not, you can certainly continue to date him, but marry him? Hell no.



I am 44, and one of my son’s friends is interested in me. How do I let him know that I am also interested? —Sreedevi

You don’t. As I’m sure you know, I’m all for Cougar dating, but this is the one line I don’t believe you should cross. There is no way your son will be happy about this and the repercussions will last much longer than the “relationship.”

This is where your maturity comes in. Just because someone is interested, doesn’t mean you have to follow through. If this young man finds you attractive, I’m sure others will also. If you want to date younger, find one of those “cubs” and leave this one alone.



My baby’s father doesn’t want to be in her life. Do you think he will ever want to be? —Sad

Most guys eventually wake up and realize they’ve made a mistake by not being a part of their child’s life. However, that may happen in one year or in 10 years. In the meantime, be sure to have other male role models in her life and give her the best childhood possible.



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