I’m 20 years old and in a situation where a co-worker who is married with kids is being the biggest flirt and teasing me every chance she gets. She’s older than me and says she’s not happily married. She hasn’t made a move on me yet. What should I do?

—Jay

I know it’s flattering and tempting to have an older woman flirting with you when you’re so young, but you have to keep in mind that she’s also a married woman. That doesn’t mean she’s ready to make a move on you, otherwise she probably would have done it already. It may just be enough for her to get your attention during work hours before she goes back to her unhappy marriage.

What should you do? Put yourself in her husband’s shoes. Would you want your wife messing around with a co-worker? Probably not. If you’re interested in older women, find yourself one who is available.



What is a quick “test” a woman can do on a date to get a glimpse of a man’s emotional maturity level? What are some signs/clues to look for that would indicate that he has his act together in a mature, emotional way?

—Anna

There isn’t a quick test because the entire date is a “test.” It’s actually an audition, where each person wants to impress the other person enough to get a second date. Everything he does shows you his maturity level – is he on time, where does he take you, how does he dress, what does he talk about, how does he talk to you, do you feel you’re with a man or a boy, etc.



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