I am not asking you to condone my behavior, but I am involved with a married man who happens to be my landlord. Should I get my rent free? I care about him, but I am living on a fixed income.

I also feel I should be compensated for being with him exclusively since he wants to call me his girlfriend. He tells me that he loves me, but I don’t think I believe that. He is just lonely and bored with his marriage. —Anita

I am getting more and more e-mails from women involved with married men. What is going on out there?

I’m not going to address your questions because this is an absurd situation. Instead of wasting your time being used, stop seeing him and spend the time you would have been with him to figure out how to make more money. That way you won’t be in this dilemma any longer and you can feel good enough about yourself that you won’t be willing to sleep with someone else’s husband.

Single people: Stop messing with married people! You wouldn’t like it if the shoe was on the other foot and your partner was cheating on you.  

Married people: Stop cheating! Be man/woman enough to either fix your marriage or get a divorce. Yes, it’s that simple!



I’m 21 and having been dating with a 33-year-old man for four months, but we haven’t had sex yet. How should I make first step? —Bella

You don’t. A man who is attracted to you will not go for four months without making a move. Something’s up. I would ask: I’m just curious as to why we’ve been dating for four months and haven’t been intimate? His reaction and body language will tell you more than his words.



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