At the beginning January, we all have high expectations that things will get better in the New Year. This especially holds true for our love lives. If you’re single, you’re probably hoping you’ll finally meet the one; if you’re in a new relationship, you’re wondering if this one will last; if you’ve been together for a while, you may be asking yourself if it’s time to get engaged.

The recurring theme for me in 2010 was that no matter what stage you may be in, it all begins with you. If you seem to keep making the same mistakes, no matter whom you date or if the same themes seem to play out in all your relationships, it’s time to step back and ask what your part may be in the way things turn out. It’s always easy to point the finger, but eventually, you realize you’re the common denominator in all your relationships.

I became a dating expert because I’m so passionate about the subject of love, dating and relationships. It’s usually where we experience our greatest joys as well as our greatest despair. I still get excited when I find a new book or article to read on this topic. Every week, no matter how I’m feeling, the time I spend interviewing yet another author or expert on my radio show is always the highlight of my day.

It’s my promise to you, that as I too continue growing and learning, I will pass that knowledge on to you, so that we can all have happier and more fulfilling relationships.

I wish you a healthy and prosperous 2011!

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