I’m 27, and six months ago I met a 49-year-old woman. During the first four months, she was extremely in love with me until her brain “reversed” in the sense that she realized I was too young for her and doesn’t think this can last. For the past two months, she has been distancing herself. What should I do? —Charles

She is at a stage in her life where she wants something secure for the future. Unless you feel you will be ready to make a serious commitment to her in the next few years, you need to let her go to find someone else.

I read your article about “how to make him commit.” I’ve been dating a guy off and on for three years. It’s not going anywhere because he is selfish and into his friends, but whenever I walk away he wants me back.

I’m finally ready to move on with or without him. I’m taking your advice and will simply go away. I haven’t communicated since our falling out. I am not doing this to have him run after me but so that one day I can have my happy ending. I love him so much, but I love myself more. Thank you for sharing the stories with us, it’s giving me strength. —Donna

Glad to help.  No matter how much you love someone, you must love yourself just as much if not more. Good luck!

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