Hi Lucia,

I met a guy who expressed an interest in me. He would usually call to find out how I was doing and so on. Recently he asked me to visit him, which I gladly did because he had visited me at home before.

When I arrived he was not well dressed, and I suspected he was up to something. After some time I asked to leave, but he said I should spend the night at his place, which I declined. Then he proposed that I should find time and spend one weekend with him, which I have not.

Now he doesn’t call me as he used to. When we first met he asked me if I was going to marry him. He wanted me to take him to meet my parents. I suspect he is up to something. What should I do?


Hi Joyce,

Who says you have to do anything? That’s the great thing about being the woman. It’s up to the man to make the moves and for you to say “yay” or “nay.”

It sounds like he wanted to have sex when you went to visit him and because you didn’t, he has lost interest. It doesn’t matter what he said when you first met. Anyone can say anything. Always look at actions first, not words.

If he calls you, great. If not, move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea!

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