Hi Lucia,

I am dating a guy from a different religion. We both love each other, but he is always afraid to express his real feelings to me, scared of commitment, even though we have been in this relationship for a long time.

I will soon be turning 29, and it’s high time for me to get married. I proposed to him many times, but he does not want to commit. I do not know what’s stopping him from taking the initiative and courage to accept me as his wife. I am tired of waiting for his yes. I am ready to give him all my support when it comes to our different religions.

I am losing all hope now. He is planning on leaving the country soon, and I don’t know where our relationship will go after that. I really don’t want to lose him and want him to realize that we are made for each other and there is nothing to be scared of.—Sakshi 



Hi Sakshi,

You can’t convince anyone of anything they don’t feel the same about. You say you love each other, but this sounds very one sided. He doesn’t express his feelings, is scared of commitment and is planning on leaving the country. Does this sound like a man who loves you?

Proposing to a man is rarely a good idea, but proposing many times simply makes you look weak and desperate, and no one wants to marry someone like that.

Who says that you need to be married just because you’re 29? Are you living by your own rules or are you following society’s rules, even though they may not always be right for you?

You need to stop trying to push him into something he may not want to do. You should not have to literally beg a man to marry you. Leave him alone and start dating other men. If he wants you, he knows where to find you.

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