I stopped all contact with my ex last year. He was hot and cold all the time, and I later discovered that he was active on two dating sites. I knew that something more serious was up, and later I found out he had a relationship with another woman.
Needless to say, I was shocked and I still deal with some anger issues. After a few months I saw him again on these dating sites. He is doing the same thing to his new girlfriend even though his Facebook status is “in a relationship.” He even texted me a couple of times the previous months to see how I’m doing.
I have thought of contacting this woman, but I don't want to be labeled as a crazy, obsessed ex girlfriend. It really drives me nuts that he thinks he can get away with it. What should I do? —Tina
Even though it may feel good for a moment to tell her he’s probably cheating, in the end, you will not gain anything, even if they do break up. It’s not about being labeled crazy, but about the fact that the Universe doesn’t need you to help it do its job. Meaning, what goes around comes around and eventually what he puts out, he will get back.
Stop living in the past and giving him so much control over your emotions. Let the situation inspire you to move on and make a great life for yourself. Living well is always the best revenge.
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