Hi Lucia,

I’m 28 and I live in England, and I’m interested in a 20-year-old girl who lives in California. We “met” only about two weeks ago through Twitter. We were already being quite flirty with each other from the start, but soon we were having massive conversations by direct message that got very dirty, even sending each other pictures.

I’m having these crazy feelings for her now, and I can't stop thinking about her throughout the day.  My stomach feels light and funny, and I hardly feel like eating. I haven't felt like this about a girl for years, and I haven't had a girlfriend for about five years since I’ve been focused on my career.

I don't want to tell her how I feel because I don’t want to freak her out. I believe in playing things cool and not being all “goofy in love” after two weeks, but I just can't shake her from my mind right now.   -Tim

Hi Tim,

Gee, who knew things got so heated on Twitter. What’s next – LinkedIn?

If I didn’t know any better, I too would think you were “goofy in love,” but we’re both smart enough to know that’s not possible after such a short period of time, especially with someone you’ve never met in real life.

When dealing with a 20-year-old girl, it’s always best to play it cool! Girls that age scare easily and are very flighty – here today, gone tomorrow. I should know – I was one once! Keep doing what you’ve been doing and if things continue to go well, at some point you can see about meeting up.

The more important issue here is that this situation brings a message for you, and that is that you are now ready to start dating.  You’ve been in relationship purgatory for five years – I think it’s time to come out and play, whether it’s with Ms. California or someone closer to home!


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