Untitled Document Q & A

Dear Lucia,

Me and my girlfriend have been having problems – she says I’m too sexual for her. I love to experiment with new things and ideas whereas she doesn’t seem to even want to do anything sexual. We have sex 2 or 3 times a month but I would like it 2 or 3 times a day. How do we meet in the middle?


Dear Luke,

Ugh! Don’t you just hate it when you’re really into someone but sexually you’re not on the same wavelength? I’ve talked to a lot of people lately where sex was an issue in the relationship. As I see it, you have two choices. You either accept the lack of experimentation and frequency or you break up.

I believe that sex is just too important to accept being in a relationship where you are not able to express yourself the way you want to, as often as you want to. There’s no way you can reach a compromise between 2-3 times a month and 2-3 times a day. That’s too much of a difference. You have a very high drive and she has a very low one.

You need to be with someone that loves to experiment and wants sex as often as you do. However, remember this: The man that always goes to bed, rarely goes to the bank; the man that always goes to the bank, rarely goes to bed.

Dear Lucia,

After being single for years I met this great gal, but we are having some issues (already) about my photography and the girls I know. I shoot a lot of lingerie and swimwear. I'm not sure what the best way to deal with this is. She isn't totally jealous but it’s affecting both of us.


Dear Oscar,

Dating is about finding out who another person is, to see if they are a match. I’m sure she’s great, but do you want your lover to be uncomfortable with your work? Your photography is a major part of your life – it’s how you express yourself. If she has a problem with it, that’s her issue, not yours. You need to find someone that accepts all of you, not just a part of you. If you’re having problems at this early stage, it will only get worse. Don’t let your desire to be in a relationship push you into making a bad decision

Dear Lucia,

I am in love with my ex boyfriend who used to live close to me but moved to Las Vegas!!! He is in love with me too and we talk all the time. We want to be with each other again but he is so far away. I am only 16 so I have to wait 2 more years until I get to decide where to live. I love this boy so much, he means everything to me. I just want to be with him!!!! What should I do!?

—Sweet 16

Dear Sweet 16,

You answered your own question. You will need to wait 2 years before you can move. However, you will be doing a lot of growing up and maturing in the next 2 years and although you currently feel you are totally in love with him, it’s entirely possible that you will feel differently at 18. This is probably not what you wanted to hear, but it is the truth. In the meantime, concentrate on school, get your diploma and the rest will take care of itself.

REMEMBER: Love inspires, empowers, uplifts and enlightens.

Write to Lucia at: http://www.theartoflove.net

Watch Lucia’s show "The Art of Love" on Adelphia East Valley Public Access (Channel 25) on Thursday, Nov. 24 at 7:30 p.m.

The Art of Love is sponsored by: Twisted Elegance Boutique, 7407 and 7560 Melrose Ave.