My boyfriend and I have been together about two to three months now. He has three kids with three different women; one is an ex-wife.
I met his youngest child’s mother (an ex-girlfriend after the divorce), two of his children and all of his family on his birthday earlier this month. We also hang out with his brother and his brother’s girlfriend a lot.
I have met all of his friends, and they told him they like me. Even his five-year-old son likes me.
He talks about us being together for a long time – marriage and things. I have no kids and have been divorced for five years.
Now he wants this to end. I want to talk this out. What should I do?
Most women who hear “three kids with three different women” would start looking for the nearest exit. Instead, you thought this was a good idea. Why?
Even though you don’t see it now, you are lucky that he wants to end this. He is actually sparing you a lot of pain and heartache, not to mention possibly being baby mama number four.
He is immature and unstable. If you are attracted to him, it’s because you too are immature and unstable. Someone who has their act together does not want this type of person in their life.
There’s nothing to talk about. Walk away now or prepare for pain.
I’ve been in deep love with this girl who has a boyfriend. He is an ex-friend of mine, so it is kind of awkward.
She’s my first love, and I am obsessed over her, but I do not show it and I just act cold around her most of the time. Lately I have been slowly opening up to her. She has taught my heart a sense I never knew I had.
Lately she has been extremely flirty, and she had the intention of starting an affair. I have no clue why she would do that when she is already in a relationship.
It breaks my heart to see her with her boyfriend, and I feel so used and led on. It’s so hard to move on or even have the thought of looking for a new girl, when I can’t stop thinking about her for at least a minute. I need guidance on what to do.
Earth to Angelo, earth to Angelo. Come down from the clouds.
You are in dreamland and can’t see the truth. You’re not seeing the real girl clearly, but only a fictitious version of her that you’ve created in your mind.
Why would you want to be with someone who would sneak around behind her boyfriend’s back? Does that sound like the ideal girl to you? If she did it before, do you really think she’d be any different with you?
If you are willing to open your eyes and see the situation clearly, it’s actually not hard to move on at all. You don’t need to start looking for a new girl, just get the old girl out of your system first. The rest will take care of itself.
There is this man I really like. He says he adores me, but he is a chronic flirt. He will be with me cuddling, chatting etc., and five minutes later he’ll be looking for another girl. We aren’t in a relationship or anything, but am I as worthless as he makes me feel? Is he just driven by physical attraction because that’s all it seems to be?
Actions speak louder at words. Don’t listen to what someone says, but to what they do. If he really did adore you, he wouldn’t be interested in looking for another girl, whether you were in a relationship or not. It sounds like he’s just interested in a physical relationship and will say whatever it takes.
No one can make you feel worthless without your permission. How someone treats you is a reflection of who they are, not who you are. You could be the greatest woman on earth, but when you’re dealing with a player, he doesn’t care.
If you wish to stay and play, go ahead. Otherwise, find someone who adores you with more than words.
Remember: Love inspires, empowers, uplifts and enlightens.
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