The moment I received a reply from you, I decided to break up with him and move on with my life. I am glad I did, as I have met a really nice guy.
Things have been really good – calls/texts, etc. He always wanted to meet me in my spare time. Then suddenly he stopped calling me.
I didn’t call him on the first day, but on the second day we had to link up. I called him a few times, but he didn’t answer. I sent him a text, and he replied, “We should move on. I am sorry. I have my reasons, forgive me.”
I didn’t respond. After two days he texted me asking if I was OK and why I stopped calling/texting him.
I replied, “I am not happy with you because you broke up with me via text, and you never mentioned if you wanted us to remain friends.” He responded, “That text wasn’t meant for you, I can explain,” and he made me believe that the text was for his ex who is after him.
Since then things haven’t been the same. He doesn’t call or text me as he used to. When I mention this, he blames me for not calling/texting.
I was tired of this, and I texted him saying that I wanna move on with my life if he is not sure what he wants. He replied, “I know what I want, baby, and that’s you. I will give you a call tomorrow.” I haven’t heard from him.
What should I do? Is he playing a game? Shall I move on with my life?
Ah, yes. The old, “That text wasn’t meant for you.” I’ve heard that one before too.
Interesting how he happened to send you a text “by mistake” right after you texted him! Even if it were true that it wasn’t for you (which I highly doubt), his actions afterwards betray his words.
Why do people assume the other person is playing a game when it’s obvious that they have lost interest? You ask, “What should I do?” Well, I think you’ve already done enough.
Dating is like a dance. One step forward, one step back. Instead, every time you initiated contact or sent text after text before waiting to hear from him, you kept taking steps forward. In the end, you ran him over.
I’m not saying he doesn’t have any responsibility in this, but we can’t control other’s behavior, only our own. You are trying too hard, doing too much of the heavy lifting.
If a guy is interested, he will eventually call/text again. It may take him longer than most women would like, but he will do it.
The key is to be patient and get on with your life in the meantime. Sitting around obsessing over someone and trying to hunt them down via phone/text is a dead-end road.
There’s this boy who is my brother’s girlfriend’s brother. I would love to be with him, but neither my brother nor his girlfriend want me to be with him.
I don’t know if he likes me, but if he did I wish they would just let me be with him. He is probably the sweetest, cutest, hottest, boy ever. He has the best personality, and he knows how to be himself.
My mom doesn’t want me to have anything to do with his family. I just want to find a guy who is right for me, and now that there is one in front of me, I can’t date him.
Please tell me how I can get this boy to like me, and how I can get my brother and his girlfriend to trust me with him!
I don’t know how old you are, but you sound very young. If your brother and mother want you to stay away from him, I’m sure they have good reasons.
You may think you know who he is, but they probably know/see things you’re not aware of. Listen to them!
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