Is your love life filled with drama? Do the players change, but the situations always end up the same? Do you always choose people whom you have to convince you are worthy of being loved? I recently read a book that I believe tells the truth about love, dating and relationships with a capital “T.”

You don’t need to spend one more minute doing what obviously doesn’t work once you read Hindsight: What You Need to Know Before You Drop Your Drawers by Maryanne Comaroto. This isn’t another book about strategies for getting the guy. This book gives you the tools you need in order to finally have the relationship of your dreams.

There is one common denominator in all your past relationships, and that is you! Until and unless you are willing to look at yourself to see how you are contributing to things not working out, you will continue to repeat the same pattern over and over. How much more time do you want to waste?

The main premise of the book is that everyone is reflecting back to you who you are. When you change yourself, you change the people you attract and the people you will be attracted to. When you decide to play big, you will no longer be attracted by people who play small, because life will always treat you the way you treat yourself.

Maryanne writes that the book is for “you fairy-tale royalty who secretly still hope and pray that you will be swept off your feet … all of you who believe that he (or she) didn’t call because they’re too busy; that because you had sex means you’re in a relationship … It’s a sleepy, almost drug-induced state in which we approach relationships: wanting or needing to get something.”

After reading Hindsight, a quote from Sir Winston Churchill came to mind. He said, “Most people stumble over the truth, now and then, but they usually manage to pick themselves up and go on, anyway.” I hope that once you read the book you will not “go on anyway,” but will instead realize that with this new knowledge, an easier, happier love life is just around the corner.

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